Blog Post: 16th November 2019 – Updated on 3rd December 2023
The Bamboo Paradox: Flexible body, resilient mind and wisdom in action
By Dr Jim Byrne
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What is the most important skill for a human?
- To be flexible like a bamboo?
- To be flexible and agile like a leopard?
- To be flexible and informed, like a well-educated individual – where “educated” means “worldly-wise”; and “flexible” means having an “open mindset”.
- To be flexible and strong, like a Zen Monk who has the strength and agility of a wily leopard?
Hello, Long time, no post. I spend so much of my time seeing counselling clients, and researching, writing, editing and publishing books that it’s very difficult to find the time to post blogs. And this blog is about one of my books, …. This is how the Preface begins:
At the age of thirty-four years, I woke up. Woke up for the first time. Became conscious of the fact that I was living a life that did not really work for me – which had never really worked in a fully satisfactory way. At that point, I began to seek wisdom – to examine my life – and to explore better ways of living a fuller, more satisfying life.
In this book, I want to share some of the fruits of my journey towards wisdom, happiness and health.
This is a book about how to take care of yourself in a difficult world; so you can be happy and healthy, successful and wealthy. Your physical height, weight, muscle bulk and so on, are not the most important determinants of your ability to be strong in the face of life’s difficult challenges. (Although your bodily health and flexibility are very important!)
In many ways, your ephemeral mind – supported by a well-rested and nourished body – is the best measure of your potential for resilient coping with stressful challenges. For example, the humble bamboo is often the thinnest plant in the forest or jungle when a tropical storm hits; but it is often the only plant left standing when the storm is over.
If you develop some bamboo-like flexibility, you can become as strong and resilient as you need to be, even if you are thin and light and less tall than the average person. (But if you overly rely upon flexibility, in a passvie, conforming manner, you may get blown away into ill health and great misfurtune!)
This is how the qualities of bamboo are conceptualized by one business-person:
“Bamboo is flexible, bending with the wind but never breaking, capable of adapting to any circumstance. It suggests resilience, meaning that even in the most difficult times… your ability to thrive depends, in the end, on your attitude to your life circumstances. Take putting forth energy when it is needed, yet always staying calm inwardly”. (Ping Fu: ‘Bend, Not Break: A life in two worlds’).
Like a bamboo, you can learn to bend in strong winds of change or challenge; and to sway in the frequent breezes of trial and tribulation. (But that will not be enough for you to optimize your surviving and thriving potential!) You can develop a solid foundation, but one which allows you to stay flexible, and to respond to the forces that assail you with a judo-like yielding and returning. (But, unlike the bamboo, the Judoka uses strength and well as flexibility; speed of mental processing – which has no bamboo equivalent; and skilful mind-body coordination!) Bend in harmony with the forces around you, without resisting rigidly, and thus avoid being broken. Go with the flow, when the flow is irresistible; but swim against the tide if you need to, when the tide is not too powerful. Eventually, the forces around you may grow tired, and you will be fresh and ready to move forward, when resistance is at its lowest. (But remember: Running away, or fighting back are important options for a human being. Also, a bamboo has no such thing as “personal boundaries”, but each human needs to have strong personal boundaries, and to defend them again those who would take advantage of them, abuse them, use them, or otherwise harm them!)
“Notice that the stiffest tree is most easily cracked, while the bamboo … survives by bending with the wind”. (Bruce Lee).
- But where is Bruce Lee today? He died young! Write that down!
To be like a human-bamboo, you must not just be well informed about how to use your mind – like an ancient philosopher – but also you must be well fed, well rested, happily related to at least one significant other person; and rooted in some kind of family, social group and/or community. You need to be involved and rooted in your home community, but free to take whatever individual action you need to take, so long as it is moral and legal.
- And I like to use the metaphor of “being like a wily leopard”; because that is often what is needed if you are going to defend yourself in an increasingly amoral and immoral world!
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And this:
“The human capacity for burden is like bamboo”- according to Jodi Picoult, an American author of fiction – “far more flexible than you’d ever believe at first glance”.
- If you want to live like a “beast of burden”, then follow Jodi Picoult’s advice!
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Of course there are flaws in each of those quotes above – limitations and exaggerations – which eventually lead us into paradox, or self-contradicting beliefs and actions, which I will explore later. But the point is to celebrate the near perfect combination of strength and flexibility to be found in bamboo, and to try to emulate that strength and flexibility in our own difficult lives – when appropriate – as individual human beings.
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The first major limitation of comparing ourselves with bamboo is this: In western science, the world is divided into three major classes:…
For more information from this Preface, please click the following link: Preface to the ‘Bamboo Paradox’ book.***
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